9. "How can you afford to have lupus?"
Well, what happened was this. I was considering paying for my children's college education. I also wanted a shiny new car. Then I said to myself, maybe a better idea would be lupus. Apparently, I didn't do research properly, because it's a lot more expensive than the label said. Turns out it's not really affordable. Silly me. But thanks for the reminder that I probably can't afford a new hat to cover up my impending hair loss. Thanks.
10. "I know how you feel. I have pollen allergies."
I sympathize. I really do. Such allergies can be intense and miserable. However, you don't know how I feel. Even people with the same type of lupus cannot truly say they know how the other one feels, though they can often sympathize with some of the same issues. However, everyone handles the diagnosis of a chronic illness in their own way. Even the same chronic illness. That is because we are all individuals, with different ideas, beliefs, goals, emotional responses, pain responses, etc..
This is not to say that sincere questions should not be asked. People need to learn more about lupus. Please just use a little courtesy when asking your questions, and don't roll your eyes at us. We may not roll them back.